tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post633321327423968345..comments2023-10-11T10:47:34.270-04:00Comments on Diary of a Single Muslimah: Good Intentionssinglemuslimahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00293680404883720048noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-66947823228577679322007-01-30T18:20:00.000-05:002007-01-30T18:20:00.000-05:00Ayesha, I'm in the Six Forks area.Ayesha, I'm in the Six Forks area.singlemuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00293680404883720048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-75485452022926914732007-01-30T14:40:00.000-05:002007-01-30T14:40:00.000-05:00sm, your last comment reminds me of pride and prej...sm, your last comment reminds me of pride and prejudice - in that case it was ther behavior of the youngest of five that was compromising the marriageability of the oldest two :)<br /> hey, you moved to raleigh from va? i grew up there! raleigh i mean. all the girls from there moved up here tho (va-dc-md). he he. there's a few left in nc tho! where exactly are you?Ayeshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08126335216361924022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-76379813677787944702007-01-29T20:02:00.000-05:002007-01-29T20:02:00.000-05:00Atifa: "we end up punishing the whole family just ...Atifa: "we end up punishing the whole family just because one member screws up" That's so true and it's so unfortunate. I remember this girl I grew up with turned out to be really trashy and her parents married her off to an unsuspecting man from back home. Well, everyone painted her two younger sisters with the same brush. They were nothing like her but their every action was scrutinized and they were called out for the slightest thing. Another girl might laugh and talk with a guy from her class, but let one of them do it and the worst was thought. I always felt so bad for them.singlemuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00293680404883720048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-53826567934422657182007-01-29T11:12:00.000-05:002007-01-29T11:12:00.000-05:00I've noticed many families do turn a blind eye to ...I've noticed many families do turn a blind eye to their childern's behavior, but both for daughters and sons always blaming the other party. But for "good" families, it's a little different. They won't lie about it, but it's understandable the embarassment/humiliation and sometimes anger they feel when the subject comes up. I mean truely we end up punishing the whole family just because one member screws up. That's just as unfair.Atifahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09389730529919353718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-39661949111186648032007-01-29T01:55:00.000-05:002007-01-29T01:55:00.000-05:00Suroor: That is so, so true.
Ruby: I can't stand ...Suroor: That is so, so true. <br />Ruby: I can't stand them either. I'd like to hang them by their toes. It would be different if they were truly repentant but they're not, at least, not as far as I can see. <br />Haleem and Atifa: Y'all are right, to a certain degree. Times are changing. My family (myself included), however, has always felt just as strongly about the guy's reputation. I'm all about forgiving and forgetting if you've repented but a lot of brothers (and their families) are shockingly blasé about the whole affair. <br /><br />Atifa, it's going to be mighty quiet around here once we're all married.singlemuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00293680404883720048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-62432928729287906202007-01-28T12:06:00.000-05:002007-01-28T12:06:00.000-05:00I tend to agree with Haleem. For me and my friend...I tend to agree with Haleem. For me and my friends the guy's rep is huge. The same goes for my parents. <br /><br />At the same time my personal philosophy is to forgive someone's (male or female) past. I mean if Allah SWT forgives someone if they repent, then who are we to hold them accountable? But that is only if it’s something truly in their past. <br /><br />On a side note, I've made some observations about our dear brothers. If he's serious, he'll be the one running to his family or your family; you won't even have to ask him. If he's not, then be prepaid for the never ending story. <br /><br />Guys will take what they can get: be that a smile, a chat, a date, or something more. They won't turn down what they get for free. Historically women have been the choosy ones; the ones who restrict access. I really don't know if it’s fair, but it’s the way Allah SWT created our psychology. Think about it. I mean we have to wear hijab and it's a greater sin to accuse a chaste women of zina then it is to accuse a chaste man. <br /><br />Humm, once we’re all married, what will we talk about? :pAtifahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09389730529919353718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-91287181471270981682007-01-26T15:48:00.000-05:002007-01-26T15:48:00.000-05:00I think the times are changing now. Nowadays I see...I think the times are changing now. Nowadays I see a lot of fuss being made over (at least in our circles) about a guy's 'history'. I know for example there's some talk over me going to Bangladesh to marry, and the number 1 question for some parties was has he ever had a girl friend?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-20795145211074587052007-01-26T10:32:00.000-05:002007-01-26T10:32:00.000-05:00I'm glad you didn't compromise yourself SM. I hate...I'm glad you didn't compromise yourself SM. I hate the guys who run aroung with every girl they see and then when its time to get married they want a good girl, a virgin and are so self-righteous. Its hypocritical.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28091951.post-30773072501091627742007-01-26T02:22:00.000-05:002007-01-26T02:22:00.000-05:00You have hit the nail on its head. I learnt in my ...You have hit the nail on its head. I learnt in my psychology course that a man tells a woman he loves her (most of the time but not always) because he wants sex, while a woman has sex because she loves the man. I think this is why many women fall prey to men on a hunting spree.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com