Wednesday, February 21, 2007

This could be a problem

Houston, we have a problem. I'm spending way too much time around non-Muslims and as a result, I hardly know any Muslims (men or women). As my mother told me, I'm not putting myself in the path of "eligible brothers." I'm willing to concede that this is partially.....::sigh::......fine, mostly my fault. I know exactly what the problem is. Now I just have to correct it. I need to start going to the masjid and attending other Islamic functions. Correction: I am going to start attending Islamic functions and going to the masjid. And nobody mention MSA because I am far too old to be at MSA functions. I rarely go to the masjid because it's out of the way and it seems like I always have something else to do. It's funny because growing up I was Little Miss Masjid. I was all thick up in the youth group, I was always volunteering for something, and I spent part of almost every weekend there. If I wasn't doing something masjid related I was volunteering with CAIR or something else Islamic. I'm somewhat ashamed to admit that I haven't volunteered with any Muslim organizations in a long, long time. The main problem with this, in addition to the startling lack of Muslims in my life, is that I wind up hanging out with a bunch of non-Muslims. Now I'm not one of those people that feel they can't have non-Muslim friends, but, sometimes, it's nice to hang out with someone that gets it.

Of course, my mother continues to point out how unacceptable it would be to get "romantically involved" with a non-Muslim. Duh. That's so not going to happen. I've never given in to that particular temptation before so why would I start now? It's certainly far less acceptable at almost 25 than it was at 19. Besides, the whole mixing religions thing is far too complicated. Who needs the bother? Meanwhile, I'm thanking God she doesn’t know that one of the guys I volunteer with has asked me out twice. Naturally, I turned him down both times. It's too bad, really. He's beyond good-looking. Oh, well, he's not for me.

6 comments:

TwennyTwo said...

assalamu alaikum,

Yeah, I hear you on not being in the path of-- shoot, just being around Muslims your age. I'm giggling over a way too young man, I feel your pain.

You are blessed, though, in that your mother is actively involved on your behalf. That's a big asset. That's major. Imagine if your family wanted nothing to do with your search at all.

What are the masjids like in your area? I have the transportation issue thrown in there, so I'm making dua' that all of the issues and what I'm seeing as blocks to my getting more involved disappear. Because, yeah, MSA ain't an option anymore. I'll add you on my prayers.

peace
TwennyTwo

Ruby said...

Its nice of your mother to be interested in your life! She's not wrong though...*sigh* I've got to make Muslim friends too...

singlemuslimah said...

TT: Girl, how old is this boy? Am I going to have to watch my little brother when we come to the area? :)

Seriously, though, I am blessed to have my family's help. The masjid is fine it's getting there that's the issue. Obviously, I should have listened to my mother and aunts and picked up that MRS degree while I was getting my BA.

Ruby: Don't you hate it when they're right?

bushraaa said...

I don't mean to point out the obvious, but when it comes to 'mixing religions' between a Muslim woman and a non- Muslim man, it's beyond unacceptable and complicated. It's haraam.

I'm also moving in another month or so, and inshaAllah I *know* the only way I'm going to meet Muslim sisters is by going to the masjid and being friendly. Gosh...

TwennyTwo said...
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singlemuslimah said...

Bushraaa: Of course it's haram, that's what makes it unacceptable. Of course that doesn't stop plenty of sisters from converting their husbands (more on that later). Anyway, rest assured, I'm totally aware that.

TT: 21 isn't too bad. It's way to young for me but stranger things have happened.